Nothing not festive
I'm getting married. Yes, it's quite a lot to me. For some, this is the best day of their lives, but we see it – and that may be due to our age and Dutch background – a little more practically. We don't live together, so for us it's a day of love. A moment when we arrange everything well for each other. And arranging that, that's what this blog is about. Because it takes a lot of arranging to get this done.
It all started with the online exploration. You can get married for free on Monday morning. By the way, did you know that there is quite a queue for that? No less than nine months. When I see this waiting period, I think more of the duration of an average pregnancy, but maybe these two are related. This is what they call 'simple marriage'. This is possible on Mondays, Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Fridays. I think someone has the Thursday off. Haha. Sorry, I'm rambling on. And this can only be done in the morning. Apparently, getting married cheap, free and easy is also something you do in the morning.
Of course, you can also 'just' get married. This is at the price, but then you can get married in the old council chamber of the town hall, for example. A lot more atmospheric than at the modern city hall at Utrecht Central Station. But location aside, it's all about love.
And you really have to feel that love for each other when you enter this process. It starts with registering your intended marriage. This is a new word for betrothal. Personally, I think that is a great pity. Banns sound a lot cozier, but yes, all the fun has gone away. Because you fill in everything online, it's a process. You enter your details and those of all the witnesses and voila: you press send. After a few days, the congregation came up on the air. The two of us and all the legitimations had to come to the city office to finalize our intended marriage.
Now I'm a fan of 'making a moment of something'. So we planned a day off and went to the city office together in a romantic way. There we received a number from a device in the large hall. We were allowed to go to department C, up the escalator and turn right. We were called upon. All documents were checked again, we paid € 627 (you read that right, getting married is not cheap) and were outside after five minutes. Nothing not festive. No congratulations yet. Just a procedure. Is it just me, or is this a missed opportunity? May 15, they can make amends.
This blog was written for CustomerFirst and published on April 15, 2020
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